I was hoping to have a profound or witty introduction for my 1st blog post. Hope has been abandoned. Hello, my name is Robbye. That weird spelling? My mother did that to me. Thanks mom.
At age 52, I’ve found myself single and dating in the traditional sense for the 1st time in my life. I’m one of those women who pretty much always had a boyfriend or husband at any given time. The longest I was ever single was 6 months. 3 years ago, I left my boyfriend who was an emotionally abusive alcoholic that cost me about $10,000, $10k I didn’t have to lose. I stayed single on purpose for 2 years. During that time I had no lack of interest from men, but I really had no interest in them. 9 months ago, I finally found someone I wanted to date, and realized I was ready. And now that I’m ready to date, of course I am having a very difficult time finding available men my age in which there is mutual interest. That man I wanted to date? Turns out he isn’t relationship material. He has however remained in my life, which I will save for another post. Having been unable to find a man to date in all the places I’m told I can find one – the grocery store, out enjoying my favourite band (I like the British spelling. Don’t @ me), at the dog park – I have reluctantly entered the foray of online dating.
I’ve started with Match. I know several couples who have met on Match. Scrolling through the profiles of man after man after man: Nope .… nope .… aw hell no .… seriously?…. Hmmm, he looks interesting, I’ll express an interest in him (you can do the equivalent of “like” or “hello” or send a message to show interest)..… nope ..… nope ..… and so on. Maybe 1 out of 10 I find I want to talk to. That doesn’t mean any of them will express an interest back. Of those who have so far, some obviously didn’t read my profile because it expressly says if they are a current, avid MAGA hat wearing trump supporter, they need to move on to the next profile. One of them wanted to argue with me about why trump is a GOOD president (yes, “good” in all caps), another responded to my reply to his message with “sorry, trump supporter.”
Likely because I am a new person on Match, and attractive (I’ve been a solid 7 much of my life, but not gorgeous by any means) I’ve received a ton of interest. Going through the messages was pretty much the same as me going through pages and pages of profiles: nope ….. nope ..… aw hell no ..… seriously? ….. Hmmm ..… You get the idea. I’ve seen profiles of 2 men I’m acquainted with. They both lied about their height. Why would you lie about something that would be immediately obvious should you meet?
1 day into this and all I can say is “oof.” So, the search continues.