Online dating day 2 was worse than day 1, and that’s saying something. Day 3 was a little better, so there’s that. Don’t get me wrong, there are attractive or interesting men on Match with whom there is mutual interest. Here’s the 1st problem: most of them are in Phoenix. I hate Phoenix. It’s wannabe L.A. without the beach, hotter than any human should have to endure, and it’s an hour and a half away. That probably sounds normal to people living in the L.A. or the Tri-state area, but here’s it’s not normal to drive an hour and a half to see someone. So unless they like to drive, that’s not going to work. 2nd problem: most of the men I’m interested in aren’t reciprocating. I’ve had plenty of interest from men I wouldn’t date if they paid me, men who didn’t read my profile and are hard core trumpers, men who think “hello pretty,” or something equally as banal would attract my attention.
It’s now been about a week, and so far I’ve only been on Match. I decided to start on Match because my twin brother met his amazing wife there, and I have several other acquaintances who have met their spouses there. It’s becoming clear to me that after a week of looking at so many pictures of men they are starting to blur together, there isn’t enough choice for me in Tucson on just 1 site. There might be a million people in the greater Tucson area, but that doesn’t mean there are a million quality men. The pool of available men online with whom there is mutual interest is much like the pool of available men in person with whom there is mutual interest – slim pickings. The pool of people in Tucson on Match is so small, there isn’t enough interest to hold events for people to meet. I’d have to go to Phoenix. That doesn’t do me any good. I have friends who met on Plenty of Fish so that is my next stop.